-Holding hands and being lovey dovey
-Being seen together everywhere
-Writing love posts on each other's walls
-Tagging each other on every status
-Constantly taking pics together
-Putting each other's pics as profiles on social networks (haha)
-Going out and having a good time-laughing,jesting,flirting
-Exploring forbidden ground
-Calling each other by sweet names:bae,baby,etc
This is what's common these days and it is labelled "courtship".
I'm not really concerned about discussing the DO's and the DONT's,but I think it should be taken more seriously and solemnly THAN most times.I'm not an expert in this area and I'm not even a good counselor/"to go to" typa person,but I can't help feeling that we're taking it too lightly.
I just feel like love letters,picnics and updating relationshp status(es) is all we think about when the word "courtship" is mentioned.Then we beautify it by being in a relationship with a brother from church which makes us feel justified.When the brother is not EVEN a believer-"doesn't believe in present truth".
I feel like there are few who realise the responsibility that lies on their shoulders as they enter into these relations.I feel like we should indeed "make haste slow";and keep in mind that if these were to lead to matrimony,which is the end goal:our relationship with God will be affected either for good or bad and the state of future generations.And ofcourse we can selfishly enter into these relationships for our enjoyment,but what about the precious little souls that Christ has died for?Don't they deserve parents who will raise them up to reach God's ideal?
At least,lets put our own desires aside and think about the plan of redemption at large:are we going to continue on our selfish ways,when these relationship could be used for the salvation of mankind?How about breaking them off or re-dedicating them:starting afresh with a vision and a mission and an eye single for God's glory?
It's not enough to not "touch","hug","kiss".It goes deeper.Preparation should be done.The young lady preparing to be an help-meet and the young man preparing to be a Priest-a ministry,a calling.We do ourselves good if we would consult God,His Word and the testimonies-rather than man-made ideals for relationships,which are often rooted on feelings,circumstances and other people's experiences.
"If there is any subject that should be considered with calm reason and unimpassioned judgment, it is the subject of marriage. If ever the Bible is needed as a counselor, it is before taking a step that binds persons together for life. But the prevailing sentiment is that in this matter the feelings are to be the guide, and in too many cases lovesick sentimentalism takes the helm and guides to certain ruin. It is here that the youth show less intelligence than on any other subject; it is here that they refuse to be reasoned with. The question of marriage seems to have a bewitching power over them. They do not submit themselves to God. Their senses are enchained, and they move forward in secretiveness, as if fearful that their plans would be interfered with by someone."-Adventist Home,p70
#Fearfully learning
-Being seen together everywhere
-Writing love posts on each other's walls
-Tagging each other on every status
-Constantly taking pics together
-Putting each other's pics as profiles on social networks (haha)
-Going out and having a good time-laughing,jesting,flirting
-Exploring forbidden ground
-Calling each other by sweet names:bae,baby,etc
This is what's common these days and it is labelled "courtship".
I'm not really concerned about discussing the DO's and the DONT's,but I think it should be taken more seriously and solemnly THAN most times.I'm not an expert in this area and I'm not even a good counselor/"to go to" typa person,but I can't help feeling that we're taking it too lightly.
I just feel like love letters,picnics and updating relationshp status(es) is all we think about when the word "courtship" is mentioned.Then we beautify it by being in a relationship with a brother from church which makes us feel justified.When the brother is not EVEN a believer-"doesn't believe in present truth".
I feel like there are few who realise the responsibility that lies on their shoulders as they enter into these relations.I feel like we should indeed "make haste slow";and keep in mind that if these were to lead to matrimony,which is the end goal:our relationship with God will be affected either for good or bad and the state of future generations.And ofcourse we can selfishly enter into these relationships for our enjoyment,but what about the precious little souls that Christ has died for?Don't they deserve parents who will raise them up to reach God's ideal?
At least,lets put our own desires aside and think about the plan of redemption at large:are we going to continue on our selfish ways,when these relationship could be used for the salvation of mankind?How about breaking them off or re-dedicating them:starting afresh with a vision and a mission and an eye single for God's glory?
It's not enough to not "touch","hug","kiss".It goes deeper.Preparation should be done.The young lady preparing to be an help-meet and the young man preparing to be a Priest-a ministry,a calling.We do ourselves good if we would consult God,His Word and the testimonies-rather than man-made ideals for relationships,which are often rooted on feelings,circumstances and other people's experiences.
"If there is any subject that should be considered with calm reason and unimpassioned judgment, it is the subject of marriage. If ever the Bible is needed as a counselor, it is before taking a step that binds persons together for life. But the prevailing sentiment is that in this matter the feelings are to be the guide, and in too many cases lovesick sentimentalism takes the helm and guides to certain ruin. It is here that the youth show less intelligence than on any other subject; it is here that they refuse to be reasoned with. The question of marriage seems to have a bewitching power over them. They do not submit themselves to God. Their senses are enchained, and they move forward in secretiveness, as if fearful that their plans would be interfered with by someone."-Adventist Home,p70
#Fearfully learning
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