Dear 'men'

Lately,I'm noticing this sense of entitlement that you have-men outside Christendom that is.Of course not all of you.
I get a feeling that you think a woman must submit to your every command-even if she's not in a relationship with you
See,I have no problem with submission-it's reserved for my husband-given that what He wants is in line with God's Word.It ends here.

Now,we meet you in the streets and you want our numbers and you even  kinda threaten us.What kinda evil is this?
Then there's that boy who clearly knows she's not interested but will continue being a problem.
See,rejection is part of life.We all have to deal with it.But the beauty in rejection is, it opens something better.

Think of it this way-in my case atleast:if you're a non-SDA brother I do not even have time to listen to a proposal from you,merely because we do not serve the same God and He calls me to only consider those within my cycle.See,this has nothing to do with how you look or this or that.It really isn't about you-it is about God,my salvation and my children.

Then there are those brothers who will go to extremes,threatening and emotionally black-mailing
Can you please stop!!!It's not fair.
Imagine a lady approaching you and making sure you do what she wants.If not,she does all-spread rumours etc....Not nice hey?Then why do it?

I know of instances where a guy would even grab your arm because he expects you to agree.
It's such behaviour that makes abuse and rape 'okay'.Then the girl will be named all sorts of things.But we can say 'No' like you, can't we?I remember how in grade 9 these boys in my class would go around kissing girls on the cheeks.Never tolerated this.So,ayway,ever been awkward so they didn't feel the liberty to do this to me.

Truth is,you can't predict I want something until I say so myself.
There's been all sorts of interpretation when you turn down a guy down-they say you're 'playing hard to get'.
But honestly,if I'm interested I'll tell you,so will she.
So,stop with all these interpretations.











Still don't get my point concerning this 'entitlement' attitude?Read the post below:

"When I was a freshman, my sister was in eighth grade. There was a boy in two of her periods who would ask her out every single day. (Third and seventh period, if I remember correctly.) All day during third and seventh she would repeatedly tell him no. She didn’t beat around the bush, she didn’t lie and say she was taken–she just said no.
One day, in third period, after being
 rejected several times, he said; “I have a gun in my locker. If you don’t say yes, I am going to shoot you in seventh.”

She refused again, but right after class she went to the principal’s office and told them what happened. They searched his locker and there was a gun in his backpack.
When he was arrested, some of my sister’s friends (some female, even) told her that she was selfish for saying no so many times. That because of her, the entire school was in jeopardy. That it wouldn’t have killed her to say yes and give it a try, but because she was so mean to him, he lost his temper. Many of her male friends said it was 'girls like her' that made all women seem like cock-teases.
Wouldn’t have killed her to say yes? If a man is willing to shoot someone for saying no, what happens to the poor soul who says yes? What happens the first time they disagree? What happens the first time she says she doesn’t want to have sex? That she isn’t in the mood? When they break up?
Years later, when I was a senior, I was the only girl in my Criminal Justice class. The teacher, who used to be a sergeant in the police force, told us a story of something that had happened to a girl he knew when she was in high school. There was a guy who obviously had a crush on her and he made her uncomfortable. One day he finally gathered up the courage to ask her out, and she said no.
The next day, during an assembly, he pulled a gun on her in front of everyone and threatened to kill her if she didn’t date him.

He was tackled to the ground and the gun was taken from him.
When my teacher asked the class who was at fault for the crime, I was the only person who said the boy was. All the other kids in the class (who were all boys) said that the girl was, that if she had said yes he would’ve never lost it and brought a gun and tried to kill her. When my teacher said that they were wrong and that this is what is wrong with society, that whenever a white boy commits a crime it’s someone else’s fault (music, television, video games, the victim) one boy raised his hand and literally said; 'But if someone were to punch me and I punched him back, who is at fault for the fight? He is, not me. It’s self-defence. She started it, so anything that happens to her is in reaction to her actions .It’s simple cause and effect.'

Even though he spent the rest of the class period ripping into the boys and saying that you are always responsible for your own actions, and that women are allowed to say no and do not have to date them, they left class laughing about how idiotic he was and that he clearly had no idea how much it hurt to be rejected.
This isn’t something that’s rare. This isn’t something that never happens, or that a select group of men feel as if they are so entitled to women that saying no is not only the worst possible thing a woman can do, but is considered a form of “defence” when they commit a crime upon them (whether it be rape or murder-as-a-reaction-towards-rejection).

Girls are being killed for saying no to prom invites. Girls are being killed for saying no to men. They are creating an atmosphere where women are too scared to say no, and the worst part is? They are doing it intentionally. They want society to be that way, they want women to say yes entirely out of fear. Even the boys and men who aren’t showing up to schools with guns are saying; 'Well, you know, I wouldn’t do that, but you have to admit that if she had just said yes…'

If you are a man and you defend this guys’ actions or try to find an excuse for it, or you denounce what really happened, or in any way lay blame on women, every girl you know, every woman you love, has just now thought to themselves that you might lose your shit and kill them someday for saying no. You have just lost their trust. And you know what? You deserve to lose it."


By vampmissedith

watercolor by Marcos Beccari