FEMININITY IS BEAUTIFUL,PART 2:

We live in a society that potrays women as tough and that encourages women to go for what they want and it also equates women to men.The society I live in encourages women to try to be men.We have quotes like,if men can do it,so can I!But this is not how God would have women become.When God created woman and man he made them different.He gave women the feminine traits while he gave men masculinity. This was so that they could complement each other.In women,there is that mothering trait,the desire to help and that is what makes us feminine.

But the devil through movies he portrays women who are loud,forward as cool.Women are not afraid to express their desire to have a relationship with a guy or even propose.By doing this,we overstep the line and we fall into the trap of being manly.Some of us have been hurt by our fathers or past relationships that we act so tough because we feel the need to protect ourselves. But we need not be ashamed of being woman and being created with desire to be protected

So,let us ask God for this trait because iris ONLY when we fill our womanly position that men can take their place.I now realize we do ourselves a disservice when we run ahead of males,try to lead them and so forth.This is not God's order.It is only recent that I'm learning that femininity makes us beautiful NOT inferior!

 Folly is an unruly woman;
    she is simple and knows nothing. 

 She sits at the door of her house,
    on a seat at the highest point of the city, 

 calling out to those who pass by,
    who go straight on their way,

    “Let all who are simple come to my house!”
To those who have no sense she says, 

     “Stolen water is sweet;
    food eaten in secret is delicious!”

But little do they know that the dead are there,
    that her guests are deep in the realm of the dead.~Proverbs 9:13-18

Like a gold ring in a pig’s snout
    is a beautiful woman who shows no discretion.~Proverbs 11:22

FEMININITY IS BEAUTIFUL,PART1 :

Feminity:the quality of being feminine,womanhood
Feminine:traits found in a woman

Lately,God has been impressing upon my heart the need to be feminine.It's something I've been struggling with and I  missed how I had to do it practically.

But come to think of it:God has impressed the need for me to be feminine around the age of 15.I remember in grade 9 how girls in my class would be touched by guys in their cheeks and even receive kisses on their cheeks.And I personally detested it and they never dared to come close to me.But at times I'd wonder if I wasn't being too hard or unfriendly.

As I continued to observe older girls in my church,they never had this virtue.Yes,they dressed in a girly manner and they led me to believe me that this is being feminine.And as I continued to attend camps girls would be attracting the attention of guys and they'd be group of girls who would have group of guys from a certain church and they'd visit each other.And in most cases,these friendships turned into relationships and as I watched this,I got discouraged and stopped being a Pathfinder and to some extent I disliked church.

One thing I also hated was the eagerness to do a programme because a certain brother would be there but at the time I thought I was being silly and negative.Last year,I was at home and I'd watch how unmarried girls will talk to married guys,as if they were one of their buddies.I really found this disturbing but I convinced myself that I was being too critical of others.But what had been on my mind was how the wives of these men must feel as they witnessed this.So,I tried to maintain a reserve and respect these married men.

But there were instances when I thought,"I'm awkward,let me loosen up"!But I would feel bad afterwards.So I learnt that I needed to guard how I reacted around males.I wasn't friends with the guys in my church and I thought maybe I'm really awkward!But it is now that I realize I am not awkward.I need to preserve my dignity and those of my brothers by not doing anything that will harm them spiritually and I have now decided to only speak that which will honor Christ when with them.

But this doesn't mean I am going to be cold.No,I will greet them and ask how they are but I will not confide in them.For some time I was struggling to link being modest and being kind.I thought I shouldn't even speak with males but that's not the case.But all should be done in the truest sense of love,not to draw their attention to me.And I still struggle,especially when I'm talking about something I am passionate about BUT God is helping me.For me,it always helps to say a prayer before engaging in a conversation with brothers so that I do not dishonour God or find myself having to take back what I've said.

I am still learning and I am depending on God to develop this trait in me.