My August :)

Sanctuary of Style

August happens to be my favourite month of the year, so I am ecstatic that it has finally arrived! My favourite month because:
-I was baptised on this month
-It's a month before my birthday in September
-It's also women's month

In the past few months, I've developed a love for African history. I've missed out a lot but I am making up for it. This has opened my mind to the realities that other African women from other parts of Africa face such as: the trokosi system, female circumcision (genital mutilation), etc. I've learnt that most African women do not have the right to make their own choices concerning what they want in life. Most of them are forced to go through traumatic rite of passages (female circumcision) without their own consent, they are denied the right to education and forced to marry.

So as I was reflecting, I realised how honoured I am as a woman in South Africa and so I think, to me being a woman means so much more: I think it also means using my freedom wisely-to the benefit of others. I believe it means choosing and developing myself so that I can pass the knowledge and skills I have to others. It also means creating awareness about other women's realities and doing all in my power to help. But of course it is not limited to serving women only.

So this August I'll be researching more about women related issues in Africa and learning more about other tribes. Most importantly, I'll be looking at womanhood from God's perspective. I hope to take sometime to reflect about the past year too. Hopefully I'll be able to share here :).

In the meantime, join me:

In deep thoughts

Maybe just maybe....It all went wrong when girls were told they're equal with boys...and they interpreted this to mean they can do everything boys do.This is problematic-because when girls are corrected they always want to include boys,even if they are NOT part of the equation.It's even sad that it's in the church.You'll tell girls to dress modestly and there's always that one who'll include men and talk about them needing self-control.It's as if there's a race between males and females.Now we have girls who sleep around because they've concluded,"if boys can do it,so can we",some play the initiator,while others bring babies into this world and abandon them.It's a deadly mindset and so much damage has been done.As if true manhood include such behaviour. I agree with Elisabeth when she says:

"It is a naive sort of feminism that insists that women prove their ability to do all the things that men do.This is a distortion and a travesty.Men never sought to prove that they can do all the things women do.Why subject women to purely masculine criteria?Women can and ought to be judged by a criteria of femininity,for it is in their femininity that they participate in the human race and femininity has its limitations.So has masculinity."~Elisabeth Elliot

His commands are for OUR OWN good

Growing in the Lord is so sweet and the pruning process is humbling and comforting when you know it's your desire to be like Christ,even if it doesn't feel good.After all,Christianity is NOT  about feelings-never was!And I must say I'm grateful for the lessons God is making clear to me and the different people he has placed into my life to encourage me in my walk with him;and I'm so grateful for the prayers uttered on my behalf,they're working!

Slowly but surely the Holy Spirit is working on me.When I look back at how I've changed I can only praise God.The main struggle I had was accepting my God-given role-to be a woman.I questioned his clear council on motherhood.I felt it was a bit unfair for me to go to school and then not really bring my degree to use.After all,I went to get a degree to serve the community.And for quite some time I had these conflict emotions concerning God's ideal for marriage.The thought of depending made me uncomfortable-I vizualised myself like a slave and having to go to husband for every cent when I could work for myself.Plus I was proud of not being able to cook.I really hated cooking,just was too domestic for me!

But a year and a few months later,after much prayer and study,I realize I am a woman-girl,created for His holy purpose and it is not by accident.He has called me to submit while he has called the male to lead.It is his order.And I must say,I'm starting to like domestic things now-cooking particularly since I'm a neat freak of some sort,although I first needed a heart change-still being pruned.I started reading Child Guidance by Ellen White and it is then that I realized the solemn duty of a mother.Before, I saw it as demeaning,on the other side I felt inadequate and the responsibility overwhelmed me.It is greater than that of a pastor or a missionary and this opened my eyes to how great and solemn  the work of the mother is and it requires repentance on the part of the mother first and practical Christianity-determining tomorrow's society.I suddenly had this desire to rear children in the Lord;but it was after much prayer.But God will reveal His will further on.For now,I need that Christ-like character,as I'm yet far.

I now know that God's ways are for our own good and for the pruning of our character into His likeness.We can only find true satisfaction when we accept and fill the role we are created to fill.Amid this indecisiveness,God never left me.He was by my side slowly leading me,even in my slackness.This is just how merciful,long-suffering and loving God is,desiring that all may repent and not perish.I was falling into a trip of seeking positions and I looked down on God's calling for me as a woman;but His Spirit kept impressing upon my heart,until I got it-still learning.

My only prayer now is:to be quick to obey,not to take long but to trust God in His leading.I've now learnt  that I shouldn't voice my opinion on a particular subject  that I'm not sure of,lest I lead others astray and misrepresent my Saviour.I'd rather counsel with God and wrestle with Him till he gives me understanding.I really have no words for God.Ever calling me to a higher level and I'm really humbled.



"If Christian mothers will present to society children with integrity of character, with firm principles and sound morals, they will have performed the most important of all missionary labors. Their children, thoroughly educated to take their places in society, are the greatest evidence of Christianity that can be given to the world."9Pacific Health Journal, June, 1890./Child Guidance,p163    

Submission

It's my prayer that our own experiences may not interfere with God's word and the way we view it,especially when it comes to male leadership and our roles as women.

I was raised by mom-God bless her!And so I never got to see how a family was supposed to be like as God had intended it to be-with the Father as the provider and the head of the family and the mother submitting to the man,a home keeper etc.So,my conclusion towards marriage was that I'll first work,get my degree and probably when I'm 30 get married-atleast I'd be independent and I'd support myself.No need to be depend on a man,so I said.

Then I later learnt the concept of the wife submitting to the male.Because I grew up without a father,I perceived this as making women inferior.Plus,if the man who was supposed to take care of me didn't,what good is a man that I should submit to him?After all,mom did a better job.But through God's grace I learnt that Christ submits to God-the father,even though he's equal to him (Philippians 2:6).And the Lord is still molding me regarding this.

See,man and females were both created by God and they both have equal worth in him but he-God,in his wisdom,has designated different roles for the both of them.He created men to be masculine and females feminine-soft,caring,etc--those womanly traits we possess.Now,my sisters,let us not allow our view of our fathers or the males who hurt us in various ways taint our view of God's order.It is God himself who has called the men to be heads/lead.Just like God allowed mankind to have dominion over creation,He has created the women to submit.It's the role we are supposed to fill.Submission is something one does freely-not with force.Just as Christ doesn't force us to keep his commandments-we choose to,so is submission-unforced,freely done and it doesn't make the one submitting inferior.It's God's way.

In fact,in marriage we see God's love for us and the husbands represent God.While the wife represents the church.Isn't it beautiful?Orderly.

If we understand this then we'll understand that God has called males to fill specific roles like being pastors,elders and we'll understand that it is his order-not man's.Just like God the Father comes first,then the Son and the Holy Spirit in that order.But does that mean Jesus is a nobody-no!He has a different role from God-the Father.We pray to the Father,Jesus is our High Priest and the Holy Spirit is our teacher,and he brings regeneration in us.All these roles are of equal importance in our lives.
May we as sisters possess the mind that was in Christ-meekness.

I pray that we may accept our God-given roles.In fact,one gift God has given us is the gift of influence,amongst many.But sadly,in the Bible we've seen how women have influenced their husbands to evil/to mistrust
God(Eve,Jezebel,Sarah).But at the same time we see how women have influenced men to good-like Abigail who prevented David from murdering Nabal by her wise,well-selected words.We see how women have brought up godly men:Like Mary who raised Jesus,John's mother-Elisabeth and Timothy's mom.There's so much good we can do,within our spheres,starting with the clothes we choose to buy,the food we eat,the conversation we relate in and in the way we relate to others.

Let's not allow society to define womanhood for us,instead let us allow God-who created us to do so.And with meekness may we understand that we are not called to be pastors and elders.If we accept that,then it will be easier to accept God's ideal for marriage and the God-head.In fact,if we seek to be these,then that means we are reversing God's order.Instead,we are saying "The wives are the heads,the husbands are to submit.And Christ must submit to the church".And sadly,we'll then go on to say,there is a she-God.

#REVELATION

Godly women in this day and age :)

Elisabeth Elliot comes to mind.She and her husband and her husband's friends went to  a certain country (can't remember the name) to share the good news about Christ.Her husband and his friends were killed.But instead of leaving the country,she continued to serve these people and spreading the gosplel.She is proof that the "peace of God surpasseth all understanding" and she defines self-denial.

For the past few months,I've been reading some of her quotes.They bless my soul.I struggled with the issue of feminity,submission UNTIL I came across her writings.God has gifted her with writings that calls the soul to Christ.She's challenged me to be pure,goldy,submissive,domestic and more.I'll keep sharing her quotes here.

“To me, a lady is not frilly, flouncy, flippant, frivolous and fluff-brained, but she is gentle, she is gracious, she is godly and she is giving. You and I have the gift of femininity... the more womanly we are, the more manly men will be and the more God is glorified. Be women, be only women, be real women in obedience to God.”
― Elisabeth Elliot

“Christ is sufficient. We do not need "support groups" for each and every separate tribulation. The most widely divergent sorrows may all be taken to the foot of the same old rugged cross and find there cleansing, peace, and joy.”
― Elisabeth Elliot, These Strange Ashes 

“Unless a man is prepared to ask a woman to be his wife, what right has he to claim her exclusive attention? Unless she has been asked to marry him, why would a sensible woman promise any man her exclusive attention? If, when the time has come for a commitment, he is not man enough to ask her to marry him, she should give him no reason to presume that she belongs to him.”
― Elisabeth Elliot, Passion and Purity: Learning to Bring Your Love Life Under Christ's Control 

“God's command 'Go ye, and preach the gospel to every creature' was the categorical imperative. The question of personal safety was wholly irrelevant.”
― Elisabeth Elliot

The woman who accepts the limitations of womanhood finds in those very limitations her gifts, her special calling which bears her up into perfect freedom, into the will of God.

Elisabeth Elliot

Read more at: http://www.azquotes.com/author/17940-Elisabeth_Elliot

The woman who accepts the limitations of womanhood finds in those very limitations her gifts, her special calling which bears her up into perfect freedom, into the will of God.

Elisabeth Elliot

Read more at: http://www.azquotes.com/author/17940-Elisabeth_Elliot

 

The woman who accepts the limitations of womanhood finds in those very limitations her gifts, her special calling which bears her up into perfect freedom, into the will of God.

Elisabeth Elliot

Read more at: http://www.azquotes.com/author/17940-Elisabeth_Elliot

A godly woman is UNASSUMING

A godly woman is UNASSUMING

Nor does she allow herself to be in situations where she will end up assuming nor does she allow her mind to assume.

What I mean is, we should not conclude until something is stated, as we are putting ourselves on the devil's ground. This I've seen especially in our relationships with our brothers. A brother will show kindness towards a sister, share the Word, be there for her and she will suddenly assume he's interested in her. Or a brother may give certain looks at a sister and she will assume the same. I’ve been a victim of this and by God's grace I see its evilness and slowly overcoming, through His grace.

Most of my sisters have been hurt because of this. I remember  an instance when a lady I know had been in  a long friendship with a certain guy and because they shared their problems with each other they became close-this is a general thing, the more we share certain things about ourselves with certain individuals the bond becomes tight. This is evident in our spiritual life as well-there more time we spend in prayer and in God's word, witnessing we become closer to God. But back to my story, she started viewing the guy friend in a different light and would have loved a relationship with him.

But sadly, the idea was not mutual. And she was badly hurt and then she went on to say the friend used him. But on what grounds? He was never in a relationship with her to begin with. And there is a lot of this going on between brothers and sisters in the church. But this is not how God would have it.
He would have us "affectionate, kind, and devoted to one another. “Romans 12:10

Even so, there need to be boundaries so that hearts don't get broken-after all, “love does no harm" Romans 13:10.And so my sisters, let us pray for an unassuming spirit. We should not quickly assume that because a brother expresses kindness towards us he's interested or he wants to pursue a relationship with us. It’s his brotherly duty. And we should guard our hearts and examine our feelings and ask God to search our hearts. In fact, I’m learning that we need to give God our feelings, because feelings cannot be trusted and "the heart is wicked above all things”. A speaker once advised that as ladies, we should not place ourselves where we are likely to develop feelings for a brother.

How do we do this? Let us make God our only, true friend. Instead of pouring our hearts to guys, let us tell Jesus because he is more than eager to hear about our struggles and he enjoys it when we come to Him. That way, we have more control over our hearts.Also, pray for a godly sister in whom you can share your trials with or get an older, godly woman to pray with and seek advice from. And if you happen to be blessed with godly parents, share your struggles with them-this not only saves you from a broken heart but strengthens the relationship you have.

And yes, guys are accountable as it is not wise for them to be our confidant. But I'd rather talk to sisters. And as much as we are to love our brothers, we must guard carefully how we interact so that we don't mislead each other and end up losing focus on why we are on this earth.

And just an illustration from the human body: during reproduction/...,the sperm is the one that runs after the egg not the other way around. This simply shows it is not according to God's order for a godly woman to "pursue" a man.It's against God's order. And my dear twin brother has often told me that pursuing a guy makes him disrespect you or use you. Let’s not put ourselves in situations where we'll get hurt.

I've learnt that the ONLY time it is appropriate for us to open our hearts is when we are in a relationship. That way you won’t get hurt. Let us not open our hearts to every guy out there-your future spouse is the one worthy of that.

May God grant us with godly reserve and an unassuming spirit? May we be so focused on Christ, that we'll pursue pure relationships with our brothers with no mind games?

To my younger sisters and older ones :)

1.Beauty is not defined by the shape of your body and the legnth of your hair or the way a certain clothing item fits you.Beauty is deeper-it comes with allowing Christ to mold us.

2.Your worth can never be defined by anything you have-but by what God has done for you,sending Jesus to die for you!Stop feeling sorry for yourself because you never went to that school,you don't have that dress,or you not YET where you thought you'd be in 5 years time.You still matter to God and that's all that counts.

3.Taking care of your health and exercising is the most precious gift you can give yourself.And God expects you to-your body is His temple and it must be kept in optimum health.

4.The attention that males give/don't give you doesn't determine your worth.Relax!Males shouldn't find it easy to say improper things to you.

5.When relating with your brothers in Christ:be mindful not to be a stumbling block to them and treat them as though they were married.

6.A relationship doesn't complete-only God can.After all,it is the potter who can mend a broken dish,isn't it?

7.Accept your body as it is.No need to compare yourself with celebs-you are princess in God's eyes.

8.If you want to be a virtous woman:Spend time in prayer,Bible study and serving :).

9.Choose your friends wisely-if you want to make it to heaven,choose like-minded people.

10.Kindness makes you more beautiful.I personally need God to help me in this area.

11.Life is NOT a competition!Don't waste your time comparing yourself with other girls-you are precious in God's sight.

12.Take time to reflect and to ask for strength for improvement in areas where you lack.

13.Instead of spending hours taking selfies,use the time to improve in a certain skill-whether it be reading,spelling,cooking.

14.Let's ask God to give us a submissive spirit,so that we may accept His role for us;which excludes being an elder or pastor,ACCORDING to His Word.

15.Gossip displeases God.

16.The influence of a woman is rarely in the pulpit-it's in her facial express,her words,her dress,in EVERYTHING and she is the most influential being.

17.Waiting on the Lord is worth it and trust him with every area of your life:your dress,your relationships,your hairstyle.That's how involved God wants to be in your life.

18.Let's love each other as sisters,pray for each other and encourage each other in the Christian walk.I personally believe they'd be less pregnancies,back-slidding,hate,dissensions if we counselled with each other-moreover,sought counsel from God and in His word.

19.Let's love in deeds:it is not loving to encourage a sister to move forward with a man who's not of the same religion as her.Let's stop celebrating sin.

20.Jesus is the ultimate best friend,before even your female bff.

21.Be your mother's helper-this will strengthen your bond :)

22.Befriend older,godly women-they are full of counsel. 

FEMININITY IS BEAUTIFUL,PART1 :

Feminity:the quality of being feminine,womanhood
Feminine:traits found in a woman

Lately,God has been impressing upon my heart the need to be feminine.It's something I've been struggling with and I  missed how I had to do it practically.

But come to think of it:God has impressed the need for me to be feminine around the age of 15.I remember in grade 9 how girls in my class would be touched by guys in their cheeks and even receive kisses on their cheeks.And I personally detested it and they never dared to come close to me.But at times I'd wonder if I wasn't being too hard or unfriendly.

As I continued to observe older girls in my church,they never had this virtue.Yes,they dressed in a girly manner and they led me to believe me that this is being feminine.And as I continued to attend camps girls would be attracting the attention of guys and they'd be group of girls who would have group of guys from a certain church and they'd visit each other.And in most cases,these friendships turned into relationships and as I watched this,I got discouraged and stopped being a Pathfinder and to some extent I disliked church.

One thing I also hated was the eagerness to do a programme because a certain brother would be there but at the time I thought I was being silly and negative.Last year,I was at home and I'd watch how unmarried girls will talk to married guys,as if they were one of their buddies.I really found this disturbing but I convinced myself that I was being too critical of others.But what had been on my mind was how the wives of these men must feel as they witnessed this.So,I tried to maintain a reserve and respect these married men.

But there were instances when I thought,"I'm awkward,let me loosen up"!But I would feel bad afterwards.So I learnt that I needed to guard how I reacted around males.I wasn't friends with the guys in my church and I thought maybe I'm really awkward!But it is now that I realize I am not awkward.I need to preserve my dignity and those of my brothers by not doing anything that will harm them spiritually and I have now decided to only speak that which will honor Christ when with them.

But this doesn't mean I am going to be cold.No,I will greet them and ask how they are but I will not confide in them.For some time I was struggling to link being modest and being kind.I thought I shouldn't even speak with males but that's not the case.But all should be done in the truest sense of love,not to draw their attention to me.And I still struggle,especially when I'm talking about something I am passionate about BUT God is helping me.For me,it always helps to say a prayer before engaging in a conversation with brothers so that I do not dishonour God or find myself having to take back what I've said.

I am still learning and I am depending on God to develop this trait in me. 

Friendships :)

I've always heard girls saying they prefer males to be their friends as compared to females.And their reasons seemed valid:girls can be moody and competitive,I used to be!But since changing growing up has taught me that  females can have proper friendships that are fulfilling without ANY complications.

I believe the reason most friendships turn out sour is because they  do not have any principles and in most cases there are no shared values between the individuals.We often fight with each other because we do not practise love at all times and we often fail to practise the golden rule:doing to others as we would like them to do towards us.We lose on valuable friendships because we are NOT willing to let self aside and we sometimes do not think before saying things.How many friendships would have been saved,if only we had refrained from saying a hurtful thing?

It is only when we allow God's spirit to reign in our hearts that we can have fulfilling,uplifting relationships where there are no arguments involved.I've been friends with dear sisters for 5 years and I believe it is through prayer and considering their feelings that our friendship has managed to last this long.

I've met one particular lady which has demonstrated that friendship is a gift from God.She has been kind,encouraging me when I felt weak and her presence in my life has led me to seek Jesus more.She's taught me so much;from how to be a godly woman,how to be modest and above all she's taught me to trust in the Lord.

This is what friendship should be about!  I believe relationships between females should not be that complicated.We don't need to be 'friends' and start sharing personal info with each other but we can all afford to be kind and provide support.That's what Christianity is about:you DON'T love,care,show kindness because someone is your friend BUT because they belong to God and they are human.


And I personally believe females and males cannot be friends-in the truest sense of the word,because one between the two parties is likely to interpret the relationship otherwise!Not that we should not interact with males BUT we should guard our hearts so that we do not send mixed messages.Many ladies have been hurt because they mistook a guy's kindness for something else.

For example:I cannot treat males the same way I treat my females friends/sisters.I cannot visit a brother for no apparent reason and alone.

As ladies professing godliness we should always note that our behaviour has an influence for good or bad and it is sinful to do anything that causes another person to fall.If we love our brothers,we will not put them in situations where they are likely to be tempted or commit sin.

I believe that if we girls can put our differences aside and be there for each other:then there will be a decrease in the number of depressed individuals or those who commit suicide or fall into sin.If we were sincerely our sister's keepers,I believe many would be able to overcome certain sins because we would encourage and share our experiences with each other.

If we cannot live happily and in harmony with other  here on earth,how can we in heaven?We often dislike each other because we compare ourselves to one another but no one is better than the other. I've learnt that we all have our faults and we are all struggling. We all are facing one enemy;the devil.We ALL have issues to deal with,so no use hating!Instead,we should stand together so that we all go to heaven.

#Learning and Unlearning

Motherhood

I've been thinking about motherhood a lot lately .It all started when I attended a Bible Study where they discuss the Adventist Home(book). At first,the thought of being a stay-at-home mother seemed too much for me....No,I was totally against it.I thought,'what's the use of studying,if it will all go to waste?';but then it was explained to me-the course that you choose should equip you to be the best mother and the best teacher to your children.

And I finally get why mothers need to be home-keepers and teach their own kids.And it's got me wondering:if a majority of mothers were home-makers and teaching their kids themselves(or not) will there be:a lot of teenage pregnancy,drug abuse,suicide,increase in HIV status and many other cruel things happening?Would abduction even occur?Okay it will occur-but not much.

It's now clear to me that one of the advantages of  being a stay-at-home mother is getting closer to your children.It's quite a rare thing amongst Africans/Xhosa people.As much as I can talk about anything with my mother-there are areas I am uncomfortable speaking about.And if matters had been different,I assume it would be easier to tell her personal things-not that I keep things from her.

I know for sure that I'd capable of quite of few things like:knitting,crochetting,cooking healthily and other domestic roles.If mothers were home keepers, it would be easier to confide in them and some decision might have been avoided because of the mother's presence.

As I look at it now,it's not much of a sacrifice-it only requires sacrifice and doing all you can for the salvation of your children.But then again,if it's not for you:you can decide to marry and not have children or not marry at all.

It's quite sad that as young women who ponder on marriage,motherhood is the last thing that comes to mind.


*As I learn!
 

MISCONCEPTIONS ABOUT MODESTY/DRESS REFORM

I've always had the idea that a change in dress into a modest apparel will make me a better person. But I've come to realize:like the law cannot change us,so it is with modest apparel.
It is only when Christ dwells within us:when every word,action and decision is made to honor God do we then become modest in the truest sense of the word.

You can still be covered:but you can still spend endless hours trying to get attention of the opposite sex-daydreaming about him,being rude,impatient,disrespecting the eldery etc.I've seen it in my life:it doesn't help if my heart is not changed and is not after Christ's will.What is the use of dressing to cover nakedness while the heart is full of hate,coveteousness,grudge,evil plans etc?

My point is this:We really need Christ-we need him to help us overcome all the evil habits in our lives.We need His Spirit to help us to be:kind,to be loving and to bear all the fruit of the Spirit.We need to exercise our will to be less about us;we need God to help us to stop entertaining impure thoughts-whether sexual/evil.We need God to help us not to be stumbling blocks and to receive every teaching.

But it all starts in the mind:we are to pay careful attention on what we dwell in and as SOP counsels us:we are to guard the avenues of our souls.You can never be entirely pure,if you still watch shows that are in contrast with the word of God.You may argue that you do not agree but the fact that you are watching them means the opposite.

Then as we allow him to change the inside,there will be change OUTWARDLY.It's first the heart then the inside!Spend time in prayer asking the Lord to give you victory in all the areas that you struggle with and all will be done according to His will.

May God help me first,for I fall short of all these qualities.

As a woman:being loud DOES NOTmake you INFLUENTIAL!

 Growing up,I thought that there was only one way for a woman to be INFLUENTIAL.I thought you had to be loud or you had to become a preacher.I noticed how women preachers were admired and always receive attention;but it's only now that I realise:you can be an introvert and still make a huge difference in people's lives.

You don't have to be an extrovert,a preacher,educated,and in a leadership position to fulfill God's duty for you as a woman.You can be a light irregardless of what you have or do not have.By the words you speak,by the acts of kindness you perform,by expounding the word with those who do not understand,by your prayers and your example and many other good deeds.

For the past year,I've been observing various women in church.The first one is my elder's wife:she's an introvert,down to earth and soft spoken.She never meddles in other people's business.As soon as church is out,she looks after her toddlers.One trait that stands out in her is her ability to choose when to speak and when not to.As a result:a lady who was backsliding,has come to church because of her influence.


The second one is my "third" mother.She also doesn't say much;but her presence is comforting.There's always joy and peace wherever she goes.

And last Sabbath I met a lovely sister for the first time and I was instanly drawn to her;there wasn't anything about her clothes or hair.But what attracted me to her is her deportment-especially what comes out of her mouth.Every word praises God and she is filled with so much gratitude and praise for her master and she speaks with wisdom.I pray that I may be like her-modest inside and out.

I can go on mentioning all these women:Some,always bring Christ in every little thing they do,they are meek,kind,caring and more.And I thank God for the opportunity of letting me meet them so that I can learn what it means to be feminine,modest and godly by example.
 
You can be INFLUENTIAL in every sphere!

*As I learn,step by step