Wednesday 4 February 2015

DEAR LADIES

I would advise you to seek divine intervention when considering a life-partner or if it is your earnest desire to be married one day.It is crucial to keep in mind that marriage is a holy institution and God is its author-so one needs to have a solid relationship with God before entering into it.It is also crucial to realize that marriage will affect this life and will,to a certain extent,determine whether you make to heaven or not and will determine your faithfulness towards God.

So, do not enter into marriage for the sake of running away from singlehood or because you are scared of being alone for the rest of your life.

I've seen how hurtful and burdensome it is to be married to someone who is not entirely submitted to God.If you are in a relationship:I advise you to put your emotions aside and really consider whether the person you are with will lead your heavenward,in words and deeds and whether they would  lighten the burdens of this world.It is also crucial to consider whether he is supportive and  his priority is your salvation.

The sad truth is:it is not enough  for him to be a churchgoer or of the same faith;but he has to be surrendered to God's will and so should you.I have also come to realize that marriage needs two individuals who are constantly yielding to Christ and are trying with God's grace to live according to all His principles.

I've seen how my mom had to struggle alone,raising us up to be Christians,putting us through school and working hard to put food on the table.I've seen how she's never had someone to cry to and to support her,even though she is married.But praise be to God for keeping her sane and calm.

Believe me:you don't want to be in a marriage where you have to bear every burden.Not only that but you also have to consider how the marriage relation will affect your children.We should consider whether the person will take his role as a priest and as a father seriously.Will he help you in raising  children who are fit for heavenly citizenship and children who will consider God in all things and be soul winners?

Marriage not only affects you but your children as well.And if you choose one who God has not intended for you,how will yiu be a good mother to the children God has given you?Will he allow you to follow the principles that govern marriage?Is he acquainted with his role as a father and a husband?Will he be faithful to God?Will he faithfully lead to heaven?

"Before giving her hand in marriage, every woman should inquire whether he with whom she is about to unite her destiny is worthy. What has been his past record? Is his life pure? Is the love which he expresses of a noble, elevated character, or is it a mere emotional fondness? Has he the traits of character that will make her happy? Can she find true peace and joy in his affection? Will she be allowed to preserve her individuality, or must her judgment and conscience be surrendered to the control of her husband? As a disciple of Christ, she is not her own; she has been bought with a price. Can she honor the Saviour’s claims as supreme? Will body and soul, thoughts and purposes, be preserved pure and holy? These questions have a vital bearing upon the well-being of every woman who enters the marriage relation.
Let the questions be raised, Will this union help me heavenward? will it increase my love for God? and will it enlarge my sphere of usefulness in this life? If these reflections present no drawback, then in the fear of God move forward."~Ellen G.White,Letters to young lovers,ch.10,p.23.

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